I told a friend that I talk to my mother and she said, "Oh, you must be talking to yourself." And I responded with, " Well, you might have a hard time convincing millions of people around the world that thats what they are doing!". Then a few days later a client called me and said, "I felt like totally giving up, then my mom passed, and since then, my life has gotten better; she has really been helping me!" And I said, "I know what you mean...."
I just ordered a new book and as a free gift I received another one from the same very popular author. I had already 'read' it, so instead I downloaded it and 'listened' to it in my car. This time I heard the author say that she had finally gotten to know her father after he died. That it was then, that she heard him clearly say to her that now he could really see her. And I said to myself, "I know what you mean...."
I don't choose to engage with others in trying to prove myself 'right' or find myself 'wrong'. Not when I can simply wait to see if my own experiences either validate me or show me new and better ways to think. By the way, I have been learning to trust talking to my mom more and more and she just told me that I was very brave to have even come to this place with her and I said, "I know what you mean..."
J.
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Monday, November 1, 2010
It's November 2010 and I'm still experiencing the birth pangs of preparing my new office space for its offical opening, so please be patient with me! Soon I will be 'settled' in and will begin writing again about how to self-heal in the easiest, fastest ways I know how! I will also be updating my website with more precise information of how I actually 'work' and I will be offering information workshops, specialized groups and free by donation hypnosis and reiki sessions.
By the way, I never share or recommend anything that I have not tested and experienced first myself. Integrity is the most important quality guiding my current life experience.
Please read the posts written at the start of this blog, because unlike other blogs subjects, this one is not time sensitive and what you made just need might be hidden in a post written last year.
I also offer special senior (65 years and over ) rates and for those on disability pensions.
Thank you for your time :)
By the way, I never share or recommend anything that I have not tested and experienced first myself. Integrity is the most important quality guiding my current life experience.
Please read the posts written at the start of this blog, because unlike other blogs subjects, this one is not time sensitive and what you made just need might be hidden in a post written last year.
I also offer special senior (65 years and over ) rates and for those on disability pensions.
Thank you for your time :)
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
My Favorite Sayings
Here are a few sayings I coined and often mention to people:
Crying and sleeping are two highly underrated activities
Both of these activities bring about healing. Follow what your 'body' wisdom wants to do.
Cry and sleep with all of your heart and in awhile you will begin to sense some recovery..."naturally"
2 - Go .........lie down, on your couch and rest your emotions
....don't cope by running away from your feelings while judging them to be bad or unwanted. Instead 'rest' with them, be curious about them, explore them... and if you practice letting them wash over you, you will soon discover that they lose their power over you.
3 - Make friends with your emotions
.... instead of fighting - fear, judgement, anger, hurt, disease etc.. make 'friends' with the emotion you are feeling and see what it has to teach you. Plus it takes waaay less energy to be friendly that it does to fight.
4 - Feeling bored? Then try being like George Costanza on Sienfeld, and do the ossopit!
Obviously coping the same way over and over hasn't changed anything so why not be like George and give it a try? I can also guarantee you that underneath that boredom lies some wonderful information just waiting to be heard by you.
Crying and sleeping are two highly underrated activities
Both of these activities bring about healing. Follow what your 'body' wisdom wants to do.
Cry and sleep with all of your heart and in awhile you will begin to sense some recovery..."naturally"
2 - Go .........lie down, on your couch and rest your emotions
....don't cope by running away from your feelings while judging them to be bad or unwanted. Instead 'rest' with them, be curious about them, explore them... and if you practice letting them wash over you, you will soon discover that they lose their power over you.
3 - Make friends with your emotions
.... instead of fighting - fear, judgement, anger, hurt, disease etc.. make 'friends' with the emotion you are feeling and see what it has to teach you. Plus it takes waaay less energy to be friendly that it does to fight.
4 - Feeling bored? Then try being like George Costanza on Sienfeld, and do the ossopit!
Obviously coping the same way over and over hasn't changed anything so why not be like George and give it a try? I can also guarantee you that underneath that boredom lies some wonderful information just waiting to be heard by you.
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
How to Talk To Your Body :when it is hurting or in disease....
USE your imagination! Play with it ! I have been talking to my body for over 20 years in this way and I can guarantee you that this method works in an amazing way, even on my very first try! But of course practice will make it easier and more effective for you :)
Just as an aside. I am always looking for faster more effective ways to heal and this one fits the bill. Once you get good at it, it can take you under an hour of quick scribbling, reviewing and reducing until you are a left with a sentence that will bring you enlightenment. It's deeply effective and once you master this technique you can move on to giving body parts and diseases a bit of personality and begin to dialogue your way out of illnesses. All fun, all harmless and all remarkably effective. My kind of "work" !!!
To start, all you need is a paper and pen and then IMAGINE the area of pain or disease and try to describe it (write on paper) what it looks like.... as if you had to DESCRIBE it to someone else!
Write down some headings to do with your senses, (touch, look, sound, taste, smell etc..) What is it's color, texture, feel, size, etc...and scribble down ALL THE ADJECTIVES you can think of, on to your paper under each of your headings (ie: color; red, dark red, like a blood red, a thick oozy red....) Then when you are done and have filled up a sizable portion of your page of paper (!) with adjectives, glance at what you have, and pick the adjectives that stick out the most for you or that have been the most repeated by the use of similar words or ones with similiar meanings. (ie; oily, slick, slippery...) Then do the exercise again using those keys words. For example, say the word 'hard' sticked out the most for you, so do this next ....think about what the word "hard" means to you, ie; mean, cold, unapproachable, protective, too protective .... on and on. And then quickly review and reduce the list again. What happens when you have done this a few times, you are actually left with just a FEW KEY WORDS which are a description of your disease or pain that will help you to know it better and why you have it.
Congratulations, you have just successfully dove into the womb of your mind ! You avoided the direct and ineffective old way of coping (which clearly wasn't working anymore) and you have discovered another way into your own deeper mind. You have begun to learn a new language based on symbols. A language particular to you and your unconscious mind which will open new pathways for you into self knowledge and ergo self healing.
All good :)
Blessings to You
J.
Just as an aside. I am always looking for faster more effective ways to heal and this one fits the bill. Once you get good at it, it can take you under an hour of quick scribbling, reviewing and reducing until you are a left with a sentence that will bring you enlightenment. It's deeply effective and once you master this technique you can move on to giving body parts and diseases a bit of personality and begin to dialogue your way out of illnesses. All fun, all harmless and all remarkably effective. My kind of "work" !!!
To start, all you need is a paper and pen and then IMAGINE the area of pain or disease and try to describe it (write on paper) what it looks like.... as if you had to DESCRIBE it to someone else!
Write down some headings to do with your senses, (touch, look, sound, taste, smell etc..) What is it's color, texture, feel, size, etc...and scribble down ALL THE ADJECTIVES you can think of, on to your paper under each of your headings (ie: color; red, dark red, like a blood red, a thick oozy red....) Then when you are done and have filled up a sizable portion of your page of paper (!) with adjectives, glance at what you have, and pick the adjectives that stick out the most for you or that have been the most repeated by the use of similar words or ones with similiar meanings. (ie; oily, slick, slippery...) Then do the exercise again using those keys words. For example, say the word 'hard' sticked out the most for you, so do this next ....think about what the word "hard" means to you, ie; mean, cold, unapproachable, protective, too protective .... on and on. And then quickly review and reduce the list again. What happens when you have done this a few times, you are actually left with just a FEW KEY WORDS which are a description of your disease or pain that will help you to know it better and why you have it.
Congratulations, you have just successfully dove into the womb of your mind ! You avoided the direct and ineffective old way of coping (which clearly wasn't working anymore) and you have discovered another way into your own deeper mind. You have begun to learn a new language based on symbols. A language particular to you and your unconscious mind which will open new pathways for you into self knowledge and ergo self healing.
All good :)
Blessings to You
J.
Monday, July 13, 2009
Menopausal Musings
Background:
Lots of successful experience of healing from various diseases and issues, doesn't mean that I am not very slow at times, to realize that I can apply the same techniques to something that is currently happening! For example, with my skin cancer, it was weeks and weeks before I started applying my own solutions and again, with perimenopausal symptoms, it was four years before I stopped to have a deeper look see! Sometimes I am too busy coping and sometimes it takes for a pattern to emerge between my behaviour and then my (dis-ease) response, before the old brain starts to kick in :)
The following is a recent dialogue I had with my menopausal symptoms for the first time in four years. It was very revealing and after reading about my experience, I hope you might try this technique for yourself - (on this issue or some other dis-ease) as it can be a very helpful and comforting process. At the very least, it seems to stop the need to spend needless energy 'fighting' one's self ..... and it could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship :)
NOTE: Just speed read as if two people were talking :)
Hello Menopausal Symptoms
Hello Janice
You know don't you, that I have come to hate you and to fear you.
Holy Crap, that's it, that's how you welcome me, this is how you meet me?
Yup, that's pretty much it. I am pretty angry, pretty pissed.
Pissed at me??
Duh, well, yeah! You have pretty much f....ed my life around, turned it upside down and inside out, and speaking of inside out. HELLO! Which is inside and which is outside? One minute I'm freezing and the next I'm dripping in hot sweat, I mean what the f... is up with THAT? What the f... is up with you???
Me? You accuse me of changing you? Of making you different? of hurting you?
Yes, I do.
Well pray tell me, how have I hurt you, I mean really hurt you?
Well I haven't been able to work.
Truth tell.
Well, I do work, I work a lot, okay maybe I am a bit of a workaholic, but I don't exactly bring in money.
But you could?
Yes (sigh) I easily could. I just chose not to.
And what else have I done to hurt you?
Well, my main relationship keeps going from good to better, so I guess you haven't done anything but help there, in fact I think he understands me better from seeing me cope with you and the changes you make in my body.
And what else have you been doing in the last four years since I have been visiting?
Got several certificates, two more degrees, quit smoking, lost weight (and kept it off), made good friends, healed from coilitis and skin cancer, was able to be with my dog during the last years of his wonderful life, built a really fantastic relationship, did reno's on our home, meditated, started studying A Course In Miracles, worked on a website, learned computer skills, wrote, studied daily, overall ~ I have become very happy in all areas of my life.
And so again, tell me how I have hurt you!
Well.... apparently ... you haven't hurt me at all. Distracted me maybe, slowed me down for sure :) because I know without you being around, I would have been working full time at some sort of regular job and coming home tired! I can see now that I have been creating this wonderful life, while I've been busy coping with all of the bodily changes you have brought my way. And by the way, I have been noticing that whenever I looked in certain directions you seemed to suddenly come full blast, slowing me down so much I felt like I was living and walking in a dense dark wet fog. Yet, I have come to believe that you are giving me a message to slow down whenever I am going in the wrong direction for me. Is this true ?
Uh huh :)
I thought so!! I was beginning to see this pattern over the last two years. And the slowing down, it felt unnatural, yet I would have to say that somewhere down deep, I felt love, but it was weird, because everything else in me wanted to speed up and take action (like get a regular job!). Yet, it wasn't too far along your visit that I began to see how you were changing me. I was beginning to feel more authentic... You do amazing work !
Humm :)
I still hate you though. And I mean that in the nicest way, I mean your methods suck, they are so annoying and petty and non-life threatening and sickening and never ending 24 hours a day. You really have a seemingly thankless job, one that might not be too popular. But I have grown to respect and admire you in ways I can even count or really measure. Thank you, thank you, thank you for all that you have done! You are amazing! And I promise that from now on I will try and follow my true path from my own will, so that you can plan on leaving me sooner than later :)
Your most welcome :)
Lots of successful experience of healing from various diseases and issues, doesn't mean that I am not very slow at times, to realize that I can apply the same techniques to something that is currently happening! For example, with my skin cancer, it was weeks and weeks before I started applying my own solutions and again, with perimenopausal symptoms, it was four years before I stopped to have a deeper look see! Sometimes I am too busy coping and sometimes it takes for a pattern to emerge between my behaviour and then my (dis-ease) response, before the old brain starts to kick in :)
The following is a recent dialogue I had with my menopausal symptoms for the first time in four years. It was very revealing and after reading about my experience, I hope you might try this technique for yourself - (on this issue or some other dis-ease) as it can be a very helpful and comforting process. At the very least, it seems to stop the need to spend needless energy 'fighting' one's self ..... and it could be the beginning of a beautiful friendship :)
NOTE: Just speed read as if two people were talking :)
Hello Menopausal Symptoms
Hello Janice
You know don't you, that I have come to hate you and to fear you.
Holy Crap, that's it, that's how you welcome me, this is how you meet me?
Yup, that's pretty much it. I am pretty angry, pretty pissed.
Pissed at me??
Duh, well, yeah! You have pretty much f....ed my life around, turned it upside down and inside out, and speaking of inside out. HELLO! Which is inside and which is outside? One minute I'm freezing and the next I'm dripping in hot sweat, I mean what the f... is up with THAT? What the f... is up with you???
Me? You accuse me of changing you? Of making you different? of hurting you?
Yes, I do.
Well pray tell me, how have I hurt you, I mean really hurt you?
Well I haven't been able to work.
Truth tell.
Well, I do work, I work a lot, okay maybe I am a bit of a workaholic, but I don't exactly bring in money.
But you could?
Yes (sigh) I easily could. I just chose not to.
And what else have I done to hurt you?
Well, my main relationship keeps going from good to better, so I guess you haven't done anything but help there, in fact I think he understands me better from seeing me cope with you and the changes you make in my body.
And what else have you been doing in the last four years since I have been visiting?
Got several certificates, two more degrees, quit smoking, lost weight (and kept it off), made good friends, healed from coilitis and skin cancer, was able to be with my dog during the last years of his wonderful life, built a really fantastic relationship, did reno's on our home, meditated, started studying A Course In Miracles, worked on a website, learned computer skills, wrote, studied daily, overall ~ I have become very happy in all areas of my life.
And so again, tell me how I have hurt you!
Well.... apparently ... you haven't hurt me at all. Distracted me maybe, slowed me down for sure :) because I know without you being around, I would have been working full time at some sort of regular job and coming home tired! I can see now that I have been creating this wonderful life, while I've been busy coping with all of the bodily changes you have brought my way. And by the way, I have been noticing that whenever I looked in certain directions you seemed to suddenly come full blast, slowing me down so much I felt like I was living and walking in a dense dark wet fog. Yet, I have come to believe that you are giving me a message to slow down whenever I am going in the wrong direction for me. Is this true ?
Uh huh :)
I thought so!! I was beginning to see this pattern over the last two years. And the slowing down, it felt unnatural, yet I would have to say that somewhere down deep, I felt love, but it was weird, because everything else in me wanted to speed up and take action (like get a regular job!). Yet, it wasn't too far along your visit that I began to see how you were changing me. I was beginning to feel more authentic... You do amazing work !
Humm :)
I still hate you though. And I mean that in the nicest way, I mean your methods suck, they are so annoying and petty and non-life threatening and sickening and never ending 24 hours a day. You really have a seemingly thankless job, one that might not be too popular. But I have grown to respect and admire you in ways I can even count or really measure. Thank you, thank you, thank you for all that you have done! You are amazing! And I promise that from now on I will try and follow my true path from my own will, so that you can plan on leaving me sooner than later :)
Your most welcome :)
Post Script: It's now the end of August and since writing the above blog entry I have not experienced any more menopausal symptoms. I am carefully going slowly as I plan new directions in my life and gingerly wait to see if the symptoms will reappear. So far so good, although it's killing me to move so slowly! This is hard for a Saggie and a speed freak like myself :) Still, all is good, very good.
Thursday, July 9, 2009
A God Story
A God Story
I dedicate this true story to my friend Sandy B. who is unfortunately gone now, leaving behind, her two beautiful boys.
One afternoon, when I was in my late twenties, I was at home in Richmond with one of my two foster teenage girls. I was planning to visit my friend Sandy B that afternoon and so phoned her. I got an answer, but it wasn't her. I apologized and tried again. Then, I called repeatedly and even though I knew I was dialing correctly, the same woman kept answering! We both finally started up a conversation and both admitted that we felt drawn to talk and to meet each other! Apparently she lived nearby with her husband and she invited both of us to dinner that same day.
I felt that God/Spirit was up to something and I was eager to go. I loved this kind of adventure and had wanted an opportunity to share something like this with my foster daughter.
We went and we were both impressed by the woman's lovely home, her style, and the dinner she served to us, her company and family. And when the dinner was over, the woman then started to talk about the recent painful death of her sister. (My foster daughter sat up straighter at this point, waiting !) It was obvious this woman was really raw and deeply hurting. And at the same time it also became quite apparent that her husband wasn't able to accept or understand her grief. He was kind of rolling his eyes about her choice of conversation, but we kept encouraging her to talk anyways, as it was clear that she needed support.
She then asked the both of us into another room to see a scrapbook she had made of her sister's life. This was something she had recently made for her sister's funeral and it was amazing:) Then she picked up another item and passed it to me while saying, " I have such an urge to read this book and I don't know where to start and my husband gets mad when I look at it". (I thought my foster daughter's eyes were going to pop out of her head at this moment.) It was a bible.
I took the bible from her hands and opened it up to Psalm 23, suggesting she start there. With suddenly weak knees, we all sat down on the floor while I read it to her out loud. She was deeply moved and started to cry and began to release some of her blocked up grief. We left shortly afterwards, feeling that our 'job' was done and I slipped her the name of a local pastor she could call if she wished.
My teenager was so excited to see God/Spirit work in this wonderful way! Once we got home, we talked a lot about how weird and fun and somehow normal it had all seemed:) Plus, I pointed out how all of us had gotten our needs met. She had had her first alcoholic fancy shmancy drink at dinner with adults, and I (a foodie) had a fabulous meal, and the stranger, the woman on the other end of the phone, had received the exact help she had prayed for!
It was an interesting and amazing day !
...Sweet Memories Sandy - Love and Peace :)
I dedicate this true story to my friend Sandy B. who is unfortunately gone now, leaving behind, her two beautiful boys.
One afternoon, when I was in my late twenties, I was at home in Richmond with one of my two foster teenage girls. I was planning to visit my friend Sandy B that afternoon and so phoned her. I got an answer, but it wasn't her. I apologized and tried again. Then, I called repeatedly and even though I knew I was dialing correctly, the same woman kept answering! We both finally started up a conversation and both admitted that we felt drawn to talk and to meet each other! Apparently she lived nearby with her husband and she invited both of us to dinner that same day.
I felt that God/Spirit was up to something and I was eager to go. I loved this kind of adventure and had wanted an opportunity to share something like this with my foster daughter.
We went and we were both impressed by the woman's lovely home, her style, and the dinner she served to us, her company and family. And when the dinner was over, the woman then started to talk about the recent painful death of her sister. (My foster daughter sat up straighter at this point, waiting !) It was obvious this woman was really raw and deeply hurting. And at the same time it also became quite apparent that her husband wasn't able to accept or understand her grief. He was kind of rolling his eyes about her choice of conversation, but we kept encouraging her to talk anyways, as it was clear that she needed support.
She then asked the both of us into another room to see a scrapbook she had made of her sister's life. This was something she had recently made for her sister's funeral and it was amazing:) Then she picked up another item and passed it to me while saying, " I have such an urge to read this book and I don't know where to start and my husband gets mad when I look at it". (I thought my foster daughter's eyes were going to pop out of her head at this moment.) It was a bible.
I took the bible from her hands and opened it up to Psalm 23, suggesting she start there. With suddenly weak knees, we all sat down on the floor while I read it to her out loud. She was deeply moved and started to cry and began to release some of her blocked up grief. We left shortly afterwards, feeling that our 'job' was done and I slipped her the name of a local pastor she could call if she wished.
My teenager was so excited to see God/Spirit work in this wonderful way! Once we got home, we talked a lot about how weird and fun and somehow normal it had all seemed:) Plus, I pointed out how all of us had gotten our needs met. She had had her first alcoholic fancy shmancy drink at dinner with adults, and I (a foodie) had a fabulous meal, and the stranger, the woman on the other end of the phone, had received the exact help she had prayed for!
It was an interesting and amazing day !
...Sweet Memories Sandy - Love and Peace :)
A Meditation on Rejection
A Meditation on
Rejection
Years ago, when I was going through a difficult time I meditated on the word REJECTION.
After some time it came to me that rejection is something that happens to us
Years ago, when I was going through a difficult time I meditated on the word REJECTION.
After some time it came to me that rejection is something that happens to us
~ when we don't have the courage to do what we need to do ~
This knowledge kind of takes the 'sting' out of it! And hopefully as you experience the value of following your true path you will eventually arrive at that place where you see that the rejection was actually a friend, not a foe.
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